A BIP records; it does not rule
BIP 3 describes technical, informational and process proposals. A number or status reflects the document process, not a community-wide vote. Editors assess format and readiness, not authority to change Bitcoin.
Code passes a separate filter
Bitcoin Core changes receive public review and tests. A maintainer can merge code into that project but cannot install it on other people's nodes. Operators, other implementations, wallets, businesses and miners choose compatible software.
Soft fork and hard fork
A soft fork narrows valid blocks, so an old node may accept a new block under looser old rules without checking the new restriction. A hard fork expands or incompatibly changes validity; disagreement can leave two persistent chains and assets.
Activation coordinates risk
BIP 9 used version bits, signalling windows, thresholds and a delay before enforcement. Signalling measures one kind of readiness, not a universal political vote. Outcomes depend on enforced code, economic acceptance and willingness to tolerate a split.